If you are reading this section chances are that either you or someone you know has lost a loved one to murder. It is important to understand that each person reacts, grieves and survives differently. Understanding and respecting these differences may make it easier to help each other through this time, and future grieving as well. You cannot replace your loved one, and now you must learn to live without them, while also having to endure the criminal justice system (if the killer(s) have been caught). It can become overwhelming, and we highly recommend finding a support group in your area. There are links on our site, but please call or email us for other resources.
The 7 stages of grief
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, in her book “On Death and Dying”, describes emotions experienced by people facing death. The emotions listed may represent just a few experienced by those who are affected by murder, however, it is a good place to start to try to help normalize the process you may be going through. The stages may happen in the order listed, or not; it depends on the person, and again, you may not experience some of these emotions or you may experience them all; they are common to the grieving process.
1. Shock or Disbelief
7. Acceptance and Hope